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Declare Your Own Freedom By Making Wise Choices

By Mindy L. Hitchcock

"Did you ever have to make up your mind - say yes to one and leave the other behind?" sang the Lovin’ Spoonful. Every day we are bombarded with choices for what to do with our time - watch television, read a good book, visit a relative, complete a work assignment, play with our kids, exercise or lounge on the beach.

Each choice carries with it a certain anxiety - is this the right choice - or would the other be better. Deepak Chopra, in the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success says, "The best way to understand and maximize the use of karmic law is to become consciously aware of the choices we make in every moment."

I came face-to-face with the impact of decision making on the Fourth of July. On the day America declares its freedom I realized I was free to make a choice between preparing for a court case or enjoying my 80-year-old father's company. Which choice would serve the Higher Interests? Which would feel better inside?

On the one hand, I could continue work on a court case. A former client hired an aggressive attorney to seize back all the money she paid in legal fees, and tried to do so by lambasting my character in court. On the other, I could reminisce about family and share a barbecue with my father and aunt, who traveled here unexpectedly from Wisconsin. He has a delightful sense of humor that always lifts me out of a funk. My children enjoy his company as well.

What criteria would I use to make the decision? At stake was what I perceived as my legal reputation and about some sizeable legal fees. If my decision were my ego - my standing in the community - I would readily prepare for battle. If securing the money were absolutely critical, I'd step over anything to get the cash. Truthfully, that's a lot of money.

After some keen thought I chose to spend a day with Dad. It felt like the right karma in the moment. I'm absolutely delighted I did so. Why?

Because I chose to listen to my Higher Self, instead of my ego. Deepak Chopra says, "You and I are essentially infinite choice-makers. In any moment of our existence, we are in the field of all possibilities where we have access to an infinity of choices."

In this situation, the court case with the former client had become a vacuum, sucking up so many attorney hours like lint on a carpet. I exhausted more than $5,000 trying to prove myself right against someone who often makes everyone around her wrong. I began to obsess about restoring my wounded pride.

My Dad and I had one of our best times ever. We shared a leisurely lunch, then painted together, until the guest bathroom became a lovely shade of French coffee and we shared a cup of homemade cappuccino to celebrate our handiwork. My aunt brought a scrapbook of family memories - of 4th of July picnics past when the whole family attended.

With laughter, paintbrushes and faded pictures I was reconnected with the past, securely connected to family in the present and poised to stand more solid in the future. I chose wisely.

Robert Putnam, a Harvard University political scientist and author of the book, "Bowling Alone: America's Declining Social Capital” suggests society has become more and more disconnected from one another. Between 1972 and 1994, the number of people saying they spent a social evening with a neighbor at least once per week dropped from 22.1 percent of all respondents to 16 percent. The number of people who attend Parent Teacher Association meetings dropped from 12 million in 1964 to 7 million in 1994.

One thing we know from such glaring statistics is that people who disengage from family, church and social interactions in the neighborhood and at schools, are people who seldom trust - even their attorney, who may have their best interests at heart. They may not experience value, even when a miracle occurs in their midst.

That's why I chose holistic law in the first place. I wanted to help people become empowered in their lives, not just richer for having won a case. The more I seek to enrich the quality of my life and of those around me, the more we all win in the universal courtroom.

I can't be attached to a certain result in this one case. It is the journey that matters more because I lead by example. I already have an abundant supply of good clients who respect my legal intuition and pay bills promptly. At 80 years of age, I don't know how long I'll have my father's vibrant company.

The choice was to stay in harmony with my family and pray it would contribute to harmony in all my affairs. My inner voice leads the way, and for that I am grateful.